32 years old, Engineer 1.What is it about being in a relationship that you love? Not being alone Partnership Support Having someone special to talk to 2.What do you most fear about being in a relationship? Being betrayed Not being with the right person Investing time, money, and energy and it being wasted 3.What are your must haves in a relationship? Someone who gets along with my family Someone who is willing and able to compromise Someone who doesn’t need to be right and win all the time Strong Christian Morals 4.What are your deal breakers? Smoking Drinking Heavily Heavy promiscuity Poor hygiene Financial irresponsibility 5. What do you wish women knew about men? (Dave did not answer this question) 6.What are your top three priorities in your life today? Career Financial Stability and Independence Enjoying Life’s Simple Pleasures 7.What do you wish you knew about women? Where to meet the good available ones (For some) How to deal appropriately with mood swings 8.What question are you happy I didn’t ask? Specific questions about sex and pleasing women sexually 9.What is the most valuable lesson you have learned from your past relationships? Don’t take situations/disagreements too seriously-things happen in life and life goes on If there is a bad situation, don’t think that it has to stay that way-relationships don’t have to be a certain way I am not stuck with one person if it’s not working 10.What are you committed to having in your next relationship? Love Friendship Partnership 11.What do you feel you bring to a relationship? Stability Predictability Partnership Friendship Support Commitment 12. If you were to create your ideal woman, what would she be like? She would be my best friend Outgoing It would be a blast to hang out with her She would come from a good family She would want to have a family She would be a good role model for our children Our families would get along with one and another If she is a good cook-that would be a plus! 13.What complaints do you have about women in general? It is hard for me to understand them 14. What do you appreciate about women in general? They are caring They have huge hearts Something about them-it’s the caring aspect 15.What are your views on dating? It is like an interview process for marriage or a long term relationship It’s also an opportunity to get to know someone else and make a new friend 16. What are your views on monogamy? A committed relationship should stay monogamous till it ends It is important in a serious relationship 17.What are your views on marriage? It’s the first step in creating a family It’s all about compromise It’s until death 18.What are your views on fatherhood? It would be fun It involves give and take-mostly giving It’s the father’s job to provide for his family Family comes first-then yourself I would like to be a father someday 19.What complaints have your partners had of you in past relationships? In other words, what behaviors did they wish you would change? I should be more social I should stop being such an idiot 20.What do you think is most important in having a successful and satisfying romantic relationship? Compromise Communication Commitment
This is the first of four insightful interviews by Charlotte. In her conversations with each man, she discovered that some of the men who were focused on figuring out “what do women want”, did not realize what a gift they would be for women by just being themselves. She had also discovered this wisdom in her own journey, where she used to be focused on trying to figure out “what do men want” and try to be that. She believed that for a man to be attracted to her and stick around, she would have to look and be a certain way or work really hard to fix him. Instead she has realized it works much better to learn and appreciate who a man really is, rather than assuming who he is and what he wants. In talking to the men she interviewed, she discovered that some of them longed for sharing and reliability and were able to talk about their feelings and concerns. Through knowing what a guy values and what he wants, and knowing what she needs and what she wants, a woman is in a great place to assess if there is sufficient interest, compatibility and commitment to build something together. Relationships are not seen as something to complete you or fulfill a societal expectation of “success” (Hello eventual problems!), but something you can build if the ingredients are there.
This is the first of four amazing interviews by Charlotte. In her conversations with four different men, she discovered that some of the men who were focused on figuring out “what do women want”, did not realize what a gift they would be for women by just being themselves. She had also discovered this wisdom in her own journey, where she used to be focused on trying to figure out “what do men want” and try to be that. She assumed that for a man to be attracted to her and stick around, she would have to look and be a certain way or work really hard to fix him. Instead she has realized it works much better to learn and appreciate who a man really is, rather than assuming who he is and what he wants. In talking to the men she interviewed, she discovered that some of them longed for sharing and reliability and were able to talk about their feelings and concerns. Through knowing what a guy values and what he wants, and knowing what she needs and what she wants, a woman is in a great place to assess if there is sufficient interest, compatibility and commitment to build something together. Relationships are not seen as something to complete you or fulfill a societal expectation of “success” (Hello eventual problems!), but something you can build if the ingredients are there.
