What is your date really thinking and wanting from you? On a recent Valentine's day,Kirstin Osgood organized a group of Urban Singles to celebrate in a unique way- really talking in depth with other singles! 10 of these singles set out to understand what the modern-day single wants, fears, thinks and expects in dating and relationships. Armed with a list of burning questions, these 10 brave people interviewed other singles to find out what they are thinking. Below are some of the interviews and impressions. Through their experiences you can gain insight, perspective, laugh a little and learn important information about the opposite sex.
Engaging the Real You and The Real Him Some Thoughts and Impressions
Charlotte Morris interviewed four men (see below) in the Valentine's Day project, and discovered that when some of the men were so focused on figuring out “what do women want”, they failed to realize what a gift they would be for women by just being themselves. She had also discovered this wisdom in her own journey, where she used to be focused on trying to figure out “what do men want” and try to be that. She believed that for a man to be attracted to her and stick around, she would have to look and be a certain way or work really hard to fix him. Instead she has realized it works much better to learn and appreciate who a man really is, rather than assuming who he is and what he wants. In talking to the men she interviewed, she discovered that some of them longed for sharing and reliability and were able to talk about their feelings and concerns. Through knowing what a guy values and what he wants, and knowing what she needs and what she wants, a woman is in a great place to assess if there is sufficient interest, compatibility and commitment to build something together. Relationships are not seen as something to complete you or fulfill a societal expectation of “success” (Hello eventual problems!), but something you can build if the ingredients are there.
ENGAGING THE REAL YOU AND THE REAL HIM: What do Men Think?
Charlotte Morris is a Life Coach who gave Soul Bird Coaching its wings in 2009. Her love for people and desire to make a difference for people with her written and spoken word were her inspiration. Charlotte’s professional background includes extensive experience in the service industry. She has worked as an Investigator, an Auditor, a Meeting and Event Planner, a Real Estate Sales Consultant and has been in the business of getting people where they want to be since 1991. Personal growth and human potential are a few of her passions. What matters most to Charlotte is that people get how uniquely great they are.
